Saturday, May 16, 2009

Pain is Wealth of Life

火凤凰"The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials." – Confucius

We all would like to live a comfortable and pleasant life, but sometimes adversities and pains are unavoidable. Thinking positively, adversities and pains provide a training ground to refine our character and to strengthen our abilities - they are actually wealth of life.

I ever met the trickiest and the most vexing person, who stepped on my nerve and tormented me, making me unable to have peace of mind day and night. However, after that, I have become emotionally strong, able to keep calm and peaceful with any difficult people. I was hurt so much; no one can hurt me anymore.

Likewise, after you reach the bottom of a valley, every another step is uphill. After the worst scenario, every another day is better and brighter. Tough situations smooth and refine us into valuable and virtuous beings. Pain is blessing in disguise.

Pain is the touchstone of character. Character cannot be developed in ease and effortlessness. Hardships and afflictions provide us opportunity to practice endurance and fortitude, to cultivate morals and virtues, and to refine our personality. With firm and unshakable determination, we can undergo any pain and overcome any obstacle. Hardships cripple the weak, but toughen the strong.

Pain is the first light of wisdom. When a conscientious person feels pain, he will probe deeply into the way and wherefore of the situation, thus obtains patience and insight and gives rise to wisdom. Pain is the best lesson to train us to become mature, wise and strong. Moral improvement and wisdom gain will save us a great deal of trouble in the future.

Pain is medicine to the soul. If something goes wrong, not one side can be 100% right. Even if we are 5% at fault, we reflect ourselves, know our faults and correct them, we are close to have a virtuous and pure mind. When we contemplate earnestly, examine our motives and feelings from a sincere and honest mind, we can uncover our true nature and purify our soul.

Pain is the ladder to success. If we give up when we encounter a small unpleasantness, we can achieve nothing. The key to success lies in patience and persistence. Adversities and pains exercise our mind, fortify our character, build up our wisdom, purify our soul and prepare us for an important mission. Pain is the necessary step stone and ladder to success.

If you already encountered hardship, you should feel grateful. You have been already bestowed a great chance to learn important lessons, to get mature and wise, and to obtain a gentle but strong heart. The earlier the hardship comes, the earlier you can benefit from it.

No pains, no gains. More pains, more gains. Some struggles are what we need to grow fully in life.

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12 comments:

Kei said...

being acquainted with the various types of death brings us closer to a greater understanding of life. We could pretend that life at its best is bliss but to never understand loss we will never fully appreciate the many riches there are to again in life. i love the post thank you

Jade Meng said...

Thank you visiting. Pain makes us enjoy pleasure more.Sometimes a near death experience can transform people into a new level.

Umma said...

I guess experiencing pain in life makes us more stronger and creates stronger faith in God.

Jade Meng said...

Umma, nicely said. Pain makes us better, sweeter and stronger. Pain makes us believe in God and His Universal Law.

Wenny said...

I wholeheartedly agree with you.

Without pain, there's no gratitude to appreciate whatever that's already in front of us.

Pain is like a knock on the head, "hey! wake up and smell the roses".

GreenRose said...

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Jade Meng said...

I agree, Wenny. As you knocked, a green rose showed up.

Green rose is rare, I've never seen one. Enjoy your life! I will visit again.

Revenanti said...

Pain is one thing to appreciate life more. But it still depends on the person. sometimes pain destroys a person, sometimes it makes them grow. Pain is a blessing. God doesn't give struggles that a person couldn't handle. One must learn from it and move on. They should not dwell in it and make it the cause of hatred, anguish and pity and destroy themselves.

Jade Meng said...

Revenanti, well said. However, I really know several instances that God gave people what they couldn't handle - several girls that I knew well ended their life by themselves, one in middle school, one in high school, one in graduate school. It is the reason that I have been overprudent with life.

We should live a life with a clear purpose and a strong belief, so that we can bear any struggle.

Revenanti said...

hmmm.. they could handle it.. they just did the right thing and just escaped.. God gave us a choice.. he puts you in a situation that you can handle in order for you to grow.. but people choose to go the easier path or just escape reality.. they could handle it with the help of God.. they just chose not to.. it's just mindset.. ^_^

Jade Meng said...

Revenanti, agree, in the three instances, at least two could handle and move on.

One was the youngest only daughter, adored by everyone. A failed romance cost her life - died as a virgin.

One held two Master's degree with high expectation of life but stuck in a seemingly hopeless situation.

Life had been easy for them.

Irtiza104 said...

Without pain we will not be able to taste the sweetness of happiness- that's what i think.